Thoughts on which this page is based.

"Don't believe everthing you think..."


There are a few basic concepts that make up the foundation of this dictionary. One such concept, best formulated by the american philosopher Abraham Maslow, has to do with fundamental being values built into our genetic material. That there is a predilection for good, for positive being values and for our pleasure response to those. We are pleased by and attracted to truth, to justice, to the lively, to beauty, to humour, to balance, to order and likewise we are repulsed by nitpicking, by the boring, by the dead and lifeless, by ugly, by abuse and injustice, by fake and falsehood and by lies. Maslow made the observation that positive being values could only be defined in terms containing all the other positive being values. If not they would be perverted such as the idea of beauty and cruelty having anything in common.

A positive being value is something we show preference for if healthy and having a choice — not insignificant IFs though. Many childhood wounds result in neurotic responses to situations — neurotic feelings that seem to negate the validity of our reactions to positive being values. For example if truth is associated with a cruel father, who demanded incriminating truth and measured out harsh punishment if his "truth" wasn't adopted, the chance of a neurotic response to truth is very likely — resulting in a neurotic pleasure in lying and a life of secrecy (as in Ingmar Bergmans Fanny and Alexander).

Some research seem to suggest that there is more to the idea of a gut-feeling than "just a feeling". It seems to place a center of billions of nerve cells in the stomach area, connected to motoric actions and as the author of an article on the subject phrased it - another feeling - brain in the stomach to rival the cortex-fed "thinking-brain" in the head.

Yet other researchers at Oxford University say that feelings now are thought to account for at least 50% of the learning information as opposed to the idea that all learning is entered through cortex in the head-brain as the portal.

Feeling healthy and unrushed, thoughts and feelings are inter-twined in a beautiful interactive network tool --- how sad that this brilliant tool isn't given nearly enough service and maintenance to serve us the way it is able to. For example, when we give (or sell) our time to an employer, only a very small piece of this capability is wanted and I believe that the consequence too often is that we downplay the spectrum of ourselves that are "not paid for" for the sake of seeming more useful (especially in a very competitive situation). If we are paid to write programs for a banking system it is easy to remake ones persona to become 95% programer and cram into the remaining 5% every other aspect of ourselves ... at a great cost to our general well being. *

This site is about feelings -- not because I think that feelings are more important than thoughts -- but maybe because thinking has been given an inordinantly high position in the hierarchy of human qualities. "He or she is so smart, very intelligent -- a quick thinker". Seldom do we hear as expressions of genuine appreciation that someone is very intuitive, sensitive and discerning. I feel that we learn far more accurately through our feeling-system than from our thinking-system. One of the ideas that will come back on these pages is that someones thinking is easier to manipulate than the feelings. The feelings can be misinterpreted by imposed thinking and again, this is the reason for why this dictionary is needed and important.

Either way, we can easiely see that the "knowledge" we can get through reading and accepting other peoples thinking or instructing, is supremely vulnerable to manipulation by unscrupulous intent. Hence the power of myth, stories and (mis)information. Some fairytales, for example, were written and used as instruments of manipulating kids into certain behavior: "remember what happened to Hans and Gretchen when they didn't obey their parents". Other fairytales and myths were written as metaphorical journeys through our lifes where felt experiences play an essential role in the interpretation of how the mind goes through a metamorphasis from child to an older persons' wiser mind, enriched with experiences. It is no small thing that intentional misinformation is fed children in pre-school and later through school books -- many being little less than politically, religiously and generally interest-motivated propaganda. This is the age when children are the most vulnerable to lasting formations of beliefs.

At a time when technology is rushing away at breakneck speed, it is even more important to recognize the brilliance of the intuitive mind and how crucial it is to give ourselves time to stop and feel where we are... where we want to go ... and how we want to go forward. Otherwise we will be carried forward on a wave of automated default responses and opinions to a, no doubt, fully automatic funural home. The question "what did I do with my life?" is one that we better start to feel out and then think about as soon as we can grasp that concept. "A wasted life" is to me the most sad of all human concepts. On the other hand, it is not a question of other peoples opinions of how someone should live their life. It is the subjective judgement that counts. If someone has spent their life always putting their own mind second and always served another person, ideology or religion and then reaches the end of their life with regret --- that is a horribly sad realization. To have participated in raising a healthy family and to have given a lot of self to others and felt the reward of mutual exchange is a profoundly fulfilling feeling and a note that can be in harmony with an ending life. Fear of death is so often tied to regret, to have lived an empty or damaging life that never got to heal itself.

I also sometimes ponder that if I lived under the inquisition, this writing would be banned by the church and never allowed to be published — actually, that could still happen :-) and if it does it would be the confirmation that accurate feelings, well understood, is maybe still the greatest threat to any totalitarian power hierarchy. It was not very long ago (about a century) that "serfs", in any of the several mining towns in Sweden, had to take their hats off and bow their heads when the "patron" (the owner of the mine) travelled by. So displeasing was it to the often abusive powerholders to see the real feelings of the people they mistreated and provoked to be angry. This was true then and is true today.

*Then again, I know people who given all the time in the world would spend all or most of their active time in front of a computer, because they love to do just that. Some would say I'm one of those...